Love Guru Arvind Irani, hard to say. I mean, there are relationships where the partners are together and they still break up. As do relationships that have a traditional basis. So, I don't think it's the distance or "social" nature that kills them. Ultimately relationships die when both let distance creep in. It could happen under the same roof, not necessarily in a long term relationship
Love Guru Sukhvinder Singh, assuming you are living in same neighbourhood, or working in the same organisation, or studying in the same college, it should be quite easy, to start a conversation. It is not a crisis point, but something very very normal. A little bit of shyness is fine, but let it not stifle your life
Love Guru sam789, yes,it is a terrible feeling to be suspected all through. Did she always suspect you or is this a new habit? The point is, a lot of wives feel insecure, often because the husband doesn't behave in a manner that makes them feel secure in the relationship. Are you such a husband? Maybe if you try to address her doubts in a better manner, she may stop suspecting you. Try it and let me know
Love Guru Neeru, married for 28 years, did you say? Surprising your wife did not straighten you out in this time, shame on you for staring at girls. Put one of your close female relatives in their place, that should cure you of this vile habit. Saying you never indulged in infidelity, are you implying that you are about to? Right thing to do is to rediscover your spouse who has stood by your crazy habits
Love Guru Raju Vohra, 10 years younger than you.. does it take her below 18? In which case, my advice is to wait till she reaches the age of consent. About not making a fool of yourself, self-conscious, are we? If yes,don't be. A little shamelessness is par for the course (so long as you don't let it all hang out), so worry too much about that
Love Guru Yasmin, by showing him that you can do better without him, that's how. My question is, are you capable of doing it? While a breakup after 7 years can be tough on one, you know there's nothing much to grieve eternally over. Shit happens, and the sooner we come to terms with it, the better. So you got dumped. So big deal. So he is not the last male on the planet. So there! That's the way to go
Love Guru Adil, ah yes, the thought should cross one's mind. But as the party in the trench, what do you think? It is not that difficult to make out when one is being strung along, you know. Do you get the feeling? Or is just a random thought that came to you which, having come, refuses to go away and now you are seeing patterns in everything she does?
Love Guru Hardik, before you start off why are you thinking of what may go wrong? How about, what may go right?Then will your sister fete you? Frankly,it's not about your sister, but about you. So put aside the focus on anyone else.
Love Guru Romil, thank god you realise you are in a mess, instead of believing, as men usually do, that all is well even when the world is crashing around their ears.It is not what I think you should do, but what you want to do. It's your life, so you are free to break your young marriage for another woman, but remember, if you can do it today,it can happen to you as well tomorrow. Think fully
Love Guru Cicilia Tamang, sometimes persistence pays off in matters of the heart. So keep at it, let him know you are around, waiting for him,and who knows, some day soon he will realise what he needs to do
cicilia tamang Thnx LG i wil alwz remember wat u said.
cicilia tamang Wel LG m vry gr8full to ur advice. but i want some suggestions on which way i should act around him. I am so confuse by d way he act. He kol upon me when he needs my help. I visit his place meeting his parents and granny. I used to help him in whatevr i can. So please suggest me what i should do.
Love Guru Rohit Agrawal, admit you wrote it, apologise, and get the hell out of their lives. What you have done may seem natural to you, but it is quite unpardonable. Count yourself lucky if they don't invoke the law and have you booked for it
Love Guru Sapan Shah, it is possible that being married, she doesn't want even a shadow of scandal to fall on her, which would affect her adversely (you have nothing to lose, being single), so respect her decision, and move on. Find a friend elsewhere
Love Guru Sunderaam, hard to say. Friendship with guys is okay, everyone is entitled to them, so don't hold it against her. But from your query it seems like you are the possessive, jealous kind of boyfriend, are you? If so that's what must be annoying her, making her shout at you
Love Guru Bahaar Fatima, did it ever strike you that you should ask him straight out if he has lost interest in you? The symptoms you describe suggest that it could be the case, but one wouldn't know unless one asked him. Of course, to be fair, he could also be under professional strain, many men are unable to handle work and love together
Love Guru Dinesh, I am no long-distance mind reader of women, but seems to me if she wanted to say yes she would have done it at once. Possibly she doesn't want to hurt you, so she is not telling a forthright 'no' to you
Love Guru JP, seems to me you two are already in a relationship, even if you don't seem to realise it, so what is it you expect me to tell you? I hope whatever you are doing, is not casting a shadow on both your marriages? Or are you planning to let it go and start all over again?
Love Guru Samarsingh, is your wife satisfied with you? Find out. If she isn't, then maybe it's time for both of you to part ways.
Love Guru Dhanpal, don't blame me pal, did I say love is blind? It is not my invention or creation. You are now expecting me to defend what you have heard or believe in? Take this up with whoever told you love is blind!
Love Guru Jeetanshu Shah, either you can live with your fear of rejection, and forever hold yourself back, or you can decide to come out of it. Just remember, nothing comes to those who hold themselves back.
Love Guru Nikhil, what you are saying without saying so is if it is okay for both of you, now in different marriages, to have an extra-marital relationship, right? Are you waiting for my permission to do? But beats me, the caste differences that prevented your marriage don't seem to come in the way now. All I can say is both you and ex-girlfriend are on course to ruin your married life
Love Guru Ganesh Kadam, it is only in films where the jilted lover lands up at the mandap and manages to convince the girl of his feelings. Do not try it in real life. So she is marrying another guy. I understand that it is an emotional blow, but look at it from her point of view. Perhaps she did not see a future with you. Whatever, she has the right to choose her life partner, and you should respect it
Love Guru Sudaram, I know of long distance relationships that have worked, and of next-door relationships that have not. Ultimately, it is not the physical distance but emotional distance that one should be wary of
Love Guru Jinny, you broke up a year ago and you are still unsure of getting into a relationship? How much time do you plan to give yourself, before you feel you are able to resume normal life? If you like this girl from your neighbourhood, what is stopping you from saying yes to her?
Love Guru Sagar Mohapatra, contact a Bollywood script-writer and sell your story:) But seriously, there's nothing much you can do. One, you can downgrade her as a friend in your contact list and move on with life, find another girlfriend etc. Or spend the rest of your life waiting, hoping, praying that somehow circumstances/situations conspire to change your status with her. What is the better option?
Love Guru Romil, but why is she getting hyper, have you been able to find out? Is there anything you are doing wrong that is making her hyper? When she is not hyper, why don't you sit with her and find out what is causing it, if there's anything you can do change the situation?
Love Guru Anil, we trust not because the other person is trust-worthy but because we are trusting by nature. So, to answer your question, if you are trusting by nature you will continue to trust her, regardless of what she has done.
Love Guru Kunika, hard to say. Depends on how you reacted to his invitation. If you did not respond, he is not sure what to do next, given the new awareness of sexual harassment norms. But how do you plan to react to it?
Love Guru Vijay. usually women don't nag without a reason. Are you sure you are an ideal husband who does not give any room for complaints? Think about it. Maybe there are things you are doing wrong that she finds irritating -- it could be something as simple as leaving your wet town on the floor. Nagging is usually a symptom, while the ailment could be some something else. Find out what's ailing her