#LIVE-Love-Guru-Chat

Love Guru Kalpana-Roy, you don't have a boyfriend but you have to decide who you are to marry. What kind of conundrum is that? I have no suggestions to make in this situation, on what you should do to get married fast

Ajay kumar Go with your gut feeling.

Love Guru Kalpana-Roy, sorry, but I have no solution to offer to this kind of blindman's buff. It's your decision, you cannot outsource it to someone else, least of all a faceless character like me you have not met in your life!

karanisha hi, Kalpana Roy i agree with u bt .... if all understand that ki one who can trust and one who can understand. to fir dusrre kisi or ka chance hi nahi hai ..... that's the true love with each other....

Ajay kumar Hi, If you want to be loved, love unconditionally.

Love Guru Kalpana-Roy, there's no perfect marriage, arranged or love. It's a work in progress. The infidelities you mention are part of life,they are a reality, on both sides. How does one handle them, resolve them, are issues, couples face everyday. Is there a pat solution? No. Does it mean marriage as an institution is at risk? It is under pressure to transform. Maybe rules of engagement need to change?

Love Guru Sudarshan, sure, you will get a girlfriend soon enough, keep us posted when that happens!

Ajay kumar It seems she has no romantic inclination towards you.

Love Guru Amar Deshmukh, you had asked me this question 3 weeks ago, when I had replied to this. Please look below for my response

Love Guru Arshad, it means that she is not interested in you. Did you have to ask me to know this? Wasn't it obvious otherwise?

Love Guru Sushan, it is always tempting when an old flame re-enters one's life, but I hope you will think with your brain, and not indulge in anything that will jeopardise your current life

Love Guru Gajanan Bose, so you were in a relationship for 4 years, so she dropped you and moved on, while you have been unable to do so for the last one year. If you are looking for sympathy you've come to the wrong place. One year is enough time to get over a failed relationship, so get it into your head no amount of pining will bring her back, unlike in Bollywood. So get on with your life

Love Guru Raju Vohra, arranged marriage or love, both have an equal chance of success/failure, 50:50. Arranged marriage has a longer antiquity, and has survived, so I am sure it has its positives. About choosing your partner, why do you think it will upset your parents?

krutika naik Love cannot be found anywhere .... only care and affection can be found ... i think thats enough for a person to survive in a marriage .... jst wait for right person .. i mean even if parents are chosing a guy 4 u , then examin the suspect throughly :))

Ajay kumar If you want to be Loved, Love unconditionally

Love Guru Vinu Murthy, not enough information. When you say you've been 'seeing this girl', you mean you've been eyeing her, and not using 'seeing her' in the manner it is usually used, right? So when you say 'become good friends' I wonder what the reality is. Given that, should you go ahead with your plan? Sure, why not, after all it's Holi, worse indiscretions have been committed in its name, after all

Love Guru Imran Farooqui, you are one conflicted soul, it seems. You say you are over her, you don't think you feel anything for her. At the same time you cannot get her off your mind, hurts to think that she may not be thinking about you. Looks like your male ego has been mighty bruised. Get over such trivial thoughts, and move on, will you?

Love Guru Clarisaanita deb, hopefully you will have figured it out before writing in to me? Come on, it can't be that difficult to read the signs, can it? The usual signs are not being available on phone, in person, via email, nothing. And when finally do get through, you will get a fairytale for excuse. Once is okay, but twice,thrice..? Make up your mind what you want to do, then

Love Guru Md-Aadil Nasim, what's wrong, you come from a family of ogres? No, right. So tell them exactly how you have told them of other momentous events in your life. Why presume that they will be against your girlfriend?

karanisha hi if he love u and u love him them its kk

Love Guru Deepikadeewani, seems to be like you have not cleared it in your mind that he is not your best friend, you two are dating now. The rules of engagement have changed. He is right in expecting what he does. Unless you feel you've been blindsided into this relationship, or worse still, he has halitosis, you can't be doing this. If former, clarify and revert to earlier status. If latter, buy mouthwash

Love Guru Chinmay Thakur, there are many kinds of flirting. There's casual flirting, innocent flirting, no strings attached flirting, and there's serious flirting. Being a uni-dimensional specie, the male finds it hard to differentiate between them. In your case, I think she was just indulging in a bit of casual flirting, not to be taken seriously. When a woman wants you to know, you will know

Love Guru Seema Dutt, congratulations, you've landed with the boyfriend type known as the Cadge. His behaviour patterns are typical, he will always have an empty wallet when it comes to shelling out, at restaurants, cinemas, malls. But he will never seem to run out of money when it comes to spending on himself. These guys believe they are god's gift to womenkind, so why bother spending? Cure: A hard knock

Love Guru Saroj Khan, you have a problem at hand, a friend who doesn't know when to step back. Your problem, first, is her. Your boyfriend is exhibiting typical male behaviour pattern, where attention by the opposite specie is all-too-welcome. Before you cure him of this, you need to have a heart-to-heart with your friend who, because she set you up, may feel proprietorial. Be prepared for unpleasantness

Love Guru Sukhvinder Agah, love is not complicated, human beings are complicated creatures and complexify everything they do. Love is just another casualty to human problems

Love Guru Neetasinha, that's blackmail pure and simple. You could ignore him but what if he carries out what he's threatened to? Worse, such types are known to leave behind notes blaming innocents for their death, causing them untold misery. If there are responsible persons around, like his teachers, colleagues/boss, parents, please taken them into confidence, tell them what is what, let them handle him

Love Guru People still do have morals, Kalpana-Roy, it is just that they have changed, because society itself has changed. Morals cannot be rigid, unchanging, forever.They keep evolving, and based on them our interactions and relationships too change. That's the nature of the world we live in

Love Guru Vinayak Tavade, that's not a great place to be in, always under suspicion.But I hope it is not because of your behaviour that she is reacting like this? Is she a naturally suspicious person? Does her suspicion extend to other relationships in her life, other situations,as well, or only towards you? If the former, then she is suspicious by nature; if the latter, then it is because of you

Vinayak Tavade yes she is suspicious about everything , ia havent done anything, i simply cant understand why she is doing this?

Love Guru VinayakTawde, apart from this suspicious nature, I am sure there are many redeeming, wonderful qualities about her. If you really love her, why don't you focus on them, pay more attention to them, and let this be in the background? After all, there is no perfect relationship, because there is no perfect human being. All of us have flaws, as do you. Underplay the negatives, go for the positives

Love Guru Tweety, he doesn't love her, he doesn't want to marry her, thank god at least he is being honest about it. So, if the girl hopes to change his mind, she won't succeed. But if she is okay with continuing in a futureless relationship, she can stay.But very likely, when he finds a woman to marry, he won't be interested in her. Those are the rules within which she will need to play

Love Guru Parwez Khan, if you don't know if she loves you truly, then, rather than breaking your head over it and ruining your peace of mind, I suggest that you ask her outright about it, and why she avoids you at times and doesn't talk to you properly. From my perch I can give you an opinion but it won't be. To know the truth, you need to talk to her, ask her about it

Love Guru Vibhav Sharma, that's a tough one. Two years is a long time to get over someone. Why don't you tell her that her behaviour undermines your feelings, and share your feelings with her? It could also be that she is not seeing this current relationship as something serious. If you are serious about it/her, share your thoughts with her. Maybe she will change her mind after you speak to her about it

Love Guru Amol Dhurve, working in the same office is the easiest way to break the ice. There are so many places and occasions one can naturally start a conversation. Be friendly, be polite, and you will find it all coming easily to you

Love Guru Virendra Raje, I hope some day soon you will realise that she doesn't reciprocate your feelings and that you will be able to walk away from it all. She may like you, but she doesn't love you. Probably she doesn't want to hurt you so she is not being blunt with you, maybe hoping that you will get the message. So get the message, the sooner the better for you, and move on

Love Guru shirish, if everyone who had their heart broken were to not get married, this world would be full of single people! What I am saying is that these things happen to everyone, the trick is not to get bogged down by the experience, but to move on. Give yourself time to get over the breakup,and approach romance with a positive outlook.

Love Guru suman singh, very easily. Just walk up to him and start talking. But it's quite amazing that without talking to him you have concluded that you are in love with him. Hopefully,you won't change your mind later!

Love Guru kunika, is there a legally approved cooling off time before one enters into a relationship following a breakup? No. This time varies from person to person. It is good if you have managed to a) get over the breakup and b) found someone else, so soon

Love Guru Aaryan Joshi, seems to me that she came to you on the rebound after breaking up with her boyfriend, and went back to him after a patchup. There's really nothing much you can do in such a situation, but lick your wounds and maybe blame your luck.

Love Guru saibhangsingh, if she was your pretty good friend why did you have to take the roundabout route of telling your friends and they telling her? That, possibly, put her off you. But you can still make amends to her. Have you tried talking to her? Does she ignore you?